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TEENS

love or infatuation

LOVE

  • Knows and accepts the other person as he or she is
  • Time is its greatest friend
  • An emotional need and an act of the will
  • Is not blind, but seeks the truth
  • Patient
  • Knows and accepts them
  • Trusts , allows the other person to be free
  • Does not seek its own ("How can I serve others?")
  • OR....

    INFATUATION

  • Based on little-known facts about the other person
  • Won’t pass the test of time
  • Is purely an emotion, thus is subject to change and wavering
  • Is blind to reality
  • In a big hurry
  • Wants to change the other person
  • Easily threatened, jealous
  • Self-centered ("What will benefit ME?")
  • STILL NOT SURE??????

    Love

  • Grows from friendship, you develop the same qualites you have in a best friend.
  • Self Giving, it's not about you, and what makes YOU happy...it's what you can do for the other person
  • I love you, no "if's, and's or but's" just plain and simple... "I love you."
  • Patient with Imperfections, like with your best friend, you allow them to grow and mature, not manipulate.
  • Trusting, not jealous..."Where were you?" "Who were you with?" "I saw the way you looked at them!" "You want them don't you?" "You are such a flirt!"
  • Makes you a better person, doesn't ask you to do anything that would hurt you or your future...
  • Does what is best for others, thinks of you first, not what they can get away with for now...
  • Infatuation

  • Happens quickly, confuse hyped up emotions and excitement for what "love" is because of the strong emotions attached. Especially when fighting...
  • Feels selfish. Selfishness is what destroys all relationships...self-focused on own "happiness" and blames the other person.
  • I love you if or because. "If you loved me you would stay with me tonight and not your friends...."
  • Blind, glosses over faults. People are warning you but you refuse to see it or have excuses for it.
  • Based on physical attraction or status. "She is hot and popular...therefore...I love her."
  • Instant desire, acts on impulse, does not value the other person...just to fulfill their own lusts.
  • Chooses for the moment and does not take your future into consideration.
  • Maybe this will help...

  • Love is the maturation of friendship. You must be friends before you can be lovers.
  • Love means trust. You are calm, secure and unthreatened. Your beloved feels that also and makes them even more trustworthy.
  • Love is an upper. It makes you look up. It makes you think up. It makes you a better person.
  • Infatuation has an element of sexual excitement. If you are honest, you can admit it is difficult to be in one another's company unless you are sure it will end-- in intimacy.
  • Infatuation lacks confidence. When he/she is away you wonder if he/she is cheating. Sometimes you check.
  • Infatuation might lead you to do things you will regret later, but love never will.
  • Take time to really be real with yourself...it's your future. If you don't value yourself...no one else will.

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